The single parent dilemma is felt the hardest by the children, and as a product of such a household I am lucky enough to have this insight in my dating life.Many guys just don’t know how to deal with a child that isn’t theirs and it becomes immediately evident to the child, even when the mom is disillusioned into thinking that the guy is perfect.You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.Ask yourself, is this man in his child’s life for not only the first day of school and graduation but all the moments in between?If a man is unable to provide for a child financially, that’s not the child’s mother’s fault.If you have good rapport with your child, have regular talks with them and they respect you, then it is important that you get their approval.
Just make sure he is respectful in his interactions. Don’t use the time you’ve been in a relationship as a measuring stick against meeting someone’s children. Just because you are in love doesn’t mean the kids are.
If a man doesn’t try to visit his son/daughter, that’s not the child’s mother’s fault.
It’s easy for someone to place blame on another person, especially if they are not getting along.
Kids can be great bonuses to meeting someone new and they can also be nightmares just as easily.
When a man gets older he realizes that the chance of meeting a childless woman thins dramatically and the question of “how” may come to his mind in dealing with a child that isn’t his.